"The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures" by Janet W. Hardy; Dossie Easton
The Making of a Hotwife
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy; Dossie Easton; 296 pages, Paperback; Published March 3, 2009 by Celestial Arts; ISBN: 9781587613371 (ISBN10: 1587613379); ASIN: 1587613379; Language: English
…Nothing builds intimacy like shared vulnerability. Write this on your bathroom mirror…
My wife and I are interested in this lifestyle and want to learn all we can about it. We don’t however desire to be polyamorous. We’re just fascinated by what turns people on and how they navigate through all the potential landmines. Of course, there have been times I wished to sexually share my wife with another man but so far we have never found the right one to fit our fantasies. One of us falling in love is out of the question for both of us, but it's always a possibility when playing around with this fire.
…Secrets will not bring you closer together—they often create more distance…
Full disclosure and complete honesty is how we roll. We have grown together so much over the last thirty years as when we first began taking photographs of her nude in every type of landscape imaginable. Our nude work has added so much to our sexual lives. We also discuss every sexual fantasy we can think of. And we remain actively engaged in our mutual desires.
…We’ve heard, and lived, too many sad, frustrating stories about near misses: partners who are fine with an open relationship until someone falls in love, at which point they freak out and demand monogamy; or partners who rhapsodize about sexual openness and free love in principle but fall apart when faced with the reality…
It is likely we will never get to conduct an illicit affair, but you never know. But it is important to us that we learn all we can about the pitfalls of sanctioned adultery. And as exciting and titillating as it is, the risks seem to be too great for us to achieve our desired results. But you never know. Mr Right may one day appear when we least expect him. Meanwhile it is okay to pursue every fantasy, and open and free communication regarding our every desire is encouraged between us.
This alternative site titled The Marriage Bed is for anyone wishing to discover, as well as consider, ideas about aging and how it affects relationships especially in regards to sex. We’ve been married for over forty years. This “long accomplishment” has afforded us an ever-changing sexual research lab. Having a new and separate site in which to focus on and consider vulnerable sexual relationships and matters of the heart also made it alarmingly clear that a need to protect ourselves with a “mostly paid” arrangement was necessary. Putting ourselves in jeopardy is exciting, but it can be dangerous. Having a community of like-minded people supporting us ensures some whisper of discrete success. It is our hope that many of you much-appreciated readers will sign on to our new project titled The Marriage Bed.
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